Appreciating What we Have: An Internal Thanksgiving

Growing up we hear plenty of “Thanksgiving is a time to give thanks” and we have “Pilgrim Parties” before our break. We learn about the history and what you’re supposed to do (i.e. make turkey and be with family) but we all forget that Thanksgiving exists to remind us of all the wats we are fortunate, and of that what we all take for granted. Its hear to tell us to stop and look around and remember how fortunate we all really are.

I can’t help but think that thanksgiving sends the wrong message. If it takes a government-sanctioned vacation day and a food coma-inducing feast of cooked bird to remind some of us to feel blessed, where does that leave us for the other 364 days of the year?  Thanksgiving shouldn’t be the only day of the year where are reminded to appreciate. I feel it should be a reminder to appreciate our lives every day.

“I am grateful for what I am and have. My thanksgiving is perpetual…O how I laugh when I think of my vague indefinite riches. No run on my bank can drain it, for my wealth is not possession but enjoyment.”
― Henry David Thoreau

Remember that thanksgiving is not limited to food and family. We can use this day to appreciate our community and friends and give back to the less fortunate people. Some times that means doing a 5k for your town or donating cans to a food drive at school.

To sum it up, Thanksgiving is a holiday that I feel should be deeply appreciated, not only with family, but with friends, the community, and most importantly yourself. This thanksgiving write down what you’re thankful for, remember the less fortunate, take a walk, make a change, stargaze, and remember how fortunate we all are.

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Ditch Your Desire to be Perfect

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Not. Good. Enough.

If my life had a theme song, this would be the title. I’m not sure where my desire to be perfect came from but it has been here for as long as I can remember.

I’m not actually sure if it’s so much the desire to be perfect as it is a paralyzing fear of failure. It doesn’t matter if I’m cleaning, doing homework, or at ballet, I’ve always felt the need for everything to be and go perfectly. Not like the drive and need to excel because there’s nothing wrong with that, I’m talking about the constant need to control the outcome of every situation.

I’m beginning to learn to let go and surrender. These ideas have helped me.

Don’t Wait

..for that perfect moment. If you wait, it’ll never come. I think that a lot us of spend the majority of our time waiting. I hear people say, all the time: “I just can’t wait till summer“,  “I will be happy when I get a bigger house” or “I will be happy when I meet the one“, “I will start once I’m ready.” You can spend your entire life, saying these things. You can spend the rest of your life waiting to start living.

Surrender

Perfectionists feel a strong need to always be in control of their emotions. When I have classes without my friends I tend to be like a completely different person, the only time I would talk is to my  partners. One day in art class our teacher put 4 people at an assigned table, when I saw I was at a table with no one I knew it made me soo nervous. In the beginning of the period  I tried to just mind my own business but I started to laugh at the jokes the boy across from me was making, then I was talking to the girl next to him and by the end of the period we were all friends. It was during that class when realized that if I just let go of that need to control the outcome of every single situation, I can actually have fun and make new friends.

 

Stop the “All or Nothing Attitude”

For perfectionists, there is no in-between. You’re either getting that 100% or you’re a complete failure. In earlier school, I couldn’t stand others doing better than me. I wasn’t happy with a 97% I wanted that 100% . It’s sort of like when you start working out, or maybe you want to change your eating habits. You don’t work out for a day or two and you start feeling crappy. Or, you’ve been eating clean for a few days but you have a moment and end up eating junk food, and you think to yourself “well… now that I broke my diet, it makes no sense to continue it, I’ll just start again next week“. This is an all-or-nothing attitude, where you aren’t happy with just 80% or 90%. This is why perfectionists have a hard time acknowledging their own success- they always want to be and do better. And that’s when the anxiety comes in- you spend more time worrying about failing than you do focusing on what it is you’re trying to accomplish. The anxiety and the worry gets in your way and makes you miserable. It can literally suck the happiness out of your life.

Perfectionism can be a way of avoiding rejection and criticism from others or even from yourself. As much as you can try and control every aspect of your life, you can’t. You can’t always control or predict the outcome. Can you imagine how boring and dull your life would be, if you knew exactly what’s around the corner?

 

7 Ways to Stay Motivated

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If you’re like me you know how difficult it is to motivate yourself. Especially now that I’m in high school and teachers aren’t on my back as much its hard to focus myself. I found these 7 tips and they have helped me so much so hopefully they can help you too!

Motivation – the difference between getting things done and remaining horizontal on a netflix binge

If you’re felling a bit “meh” here’s how to kick yourself out of it.

What is motivation?

motivation is said to have 3 components:

  1. Activation – The decision to do something
  2. Intensity – The amount of effort that goes into doing something
  3. Perseverance – How long you can keep up the effort

Achieving your goal requires all of the above.

Types of Motivation

motivation can be divided into 2 categories

Intrinsic motivation                                                                   Extrinsic motivation

Comes from the inside of a person                                       Comes from an outside force

i.e. solving a puzzle because you want to                           i.e. solving a problem for money

Pros                                                        Cons                                Pros                                     Cons

easy to maintain concentration     Can easily be               Easy to manufacture     Prone to

will do it regardless of  reward      subject to moods         using rewards            procrastination

                                                                                                          Makes difficult tasks bearable

How to Find Motivation

If you keep procrastinating on a task, the best way to motivate yourself is to eliminate all excuses that are keeping you from doing work.

How to Get Motivated

  1. Youre afraid of failure

– It’s a matter of perspective. Look at the possible outcomes, including the worst case scenario. If you do fail, will it really be that bad? And if you don’t complete the task what will happen? Think of the consequences, this negative outcome should help you start getting motivated.

2.  It’s too boring

–  Focus on the task instead of time. By looking at what you need to do, instead of how long it’ll take you, you’ll become more stimulated. With this approach, time should fly as you finish the activity. If this isn’t enough, track your progress towards a goal. Focus on whatever is the smaller of the two. How much you’ve done vs. how much you have left to do.

3.  You  just don’t feel like it

–  Think about when you’re the most productive. If its early morning or late afternoon, then organize your day around this time. If you’re still feeling lazy, try the “countdown and do it” method. Just countdown from 10 and start. Once you’ve focused in, you’re more likely to get things done.

4. You’re too tired

– Take care of yourself physically and mentally. Are you stressed out? Take time to meditate and exercise. How are your eating and sleeping pattern? Don’t skip meals or pull all nighters.

5. You don’t know where to start

– Create a to do list. Getting started can be the hardest part, but if you can see what needs doing from the get go, you’re on a good start. Include not only what you have to do but what choices you have to make. It’ll help you get your priorities in order  and help you manage.

6. You just have too much to do

–  Get rid of any unnecessary commitments. Every commitment you make uses up your willpower. Learn to say ‘no’ to things and focus on whats important in life. If it just the size of the task that’s overwhelming the divide and conquer. Feel good about small successes.

7. You don’t see the point

– Be clear on the end goal. Know what you’re doing and why. If it’s something boring or unpleasant, accept its something you need to to turn yourself into who you want to be.

Dreams get you started, discipline keeps you going – Jim Rohn

sources

http://www.pinterest.com

 

My 3 Favorite Smoothie Bowls

Ever wanted to have ice cream for breakfast? Creamy, nutritious smoothie bowls are a new trend are are super easy to make! You’ll only need a blender and 5 minutes to make one. In this post I’ll show you how to make my 3 favourite smoothie bowls, the strawberry cream, pineapple banana peach, and mixed berry.

 

The Strawberries and Cream

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Ever wanted to have ice cream for breakfast? Creamy, nutritious smoothie bowls are a new trend are are super easy to make! You’ll only need a blender and 5 minutes to make one. In this post I’ll show you how to make one of my favorite smoothie bowls, the strawberry cream.

What you’ll need:

  1. 1 cup of fresh strawberries
  2. 1/2 a cup of yoghurt
  3. 1/4 cup of milk
  4. 1 tbsp. of maple syrup
  5. 1/4 tsp of pure vanilla extract
  6. 1/2 a cup of corn flakes
  7. 5 sliced strawberries
  8. 1/4 cup of blueberries
  9. 2 tbsp. almonds
  10. 1 tbsp. of pumpkin seeds
  11. 1 tsp. of chia seeds

Preparation

Blend the strawberries, yoghurt, 1 tbsp. of maple syrup, and the vanilla until smooth. Transfer to a large bowl and top with cornflakes, strawberries, blueberries, almonds, pumpkin seeds, chia seeds, and a drizzle of yoghurt.

As hard as you thought? Probably not. This simple recipe is perfect for anytime of the day!

 

Pineapple, Banana, and Peach 

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Ingredients

1 cup of frozen pineapple
1 banana
¼ cup of coconut water
1 tbsp. of honey
¼  of a peach, thinly sliced
½ cup of blackberries
2 tbsp. of sunflower seeds
¼ cup of puffed rice cereal

Preparation

Blend the pineapple, banana, coconut water, and 1 tablespoon of the honey until smooth. Then, transfer to a bowl and top with the peach, blackberries, sunflower seeds, rice cereal, and a drizzle of honey.

This is a perfect smoothie bowl that is super refreshing and tropical! {also super cute}

 

The Mixed Berry Smoothie Bowl

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Ingredients

1 ½ cups frozen mixed berries (strawberries, raspberries, and blueberries)
¼ cup of pomegranate juice
¼ cup of plain yogurt, plus additional for drizzling
½ cup blueberries
½ peach, sliced
2 Tbsp. dried mulberries
2 Tbsp. pumpkin seeds

Preparation

Blend the frozen berries, pomegranate juice, and ¼ cup of the yogurt until smooth. Transfer to a bowl and top with the blueberries, peach, mulberries, pumpkin seeds, and a drizzle of yogurt.

This might be one of my favourite smoothie bowls because I lovvvee berries especially pomegranate and strawberries  and this recipe has both!! I hope this post gave you some smoothie inspiration!

 

Images and recipes: Buzzfeed